When working with trauma, reparenting is crucial when working with clients in dearmouring sessions.

Often, we work with unresolved traumatic experiences, which the body keeps score - whether someone has done to us like a life-threatening or abusive experience or what we have not received, like missing enough parental love at an early age of a child - both create an imprint of a trauma-response in the body.

It's not the situation that creates the traumatic response in our bodies; it's each capacity for human beings to deal with these experiences. To finish that broken circle and resolve it. (Imagine a music record with a scratch, constantly spinning in the same place until it's repaired and can complete their song)

When working with trauma, reparenting is crucial when working with clients in dearmouring sessions.

As soon as I recognize that my client opens a deep old wound of missing parental mother or father love and becoming that helpless Baby-child, that parental love energy as a practitioner has to be embodied and present within me.

I become a father or mother on all levels with my emotional, energetic, mental, and physical body. That allows the client by feeling to fully open up, especially when dealing with the uprising and unresolved traumatic situations from early childhood.

I have never birthed a newborn into that world, so I have no imprint on how it feels in my system to be a mother. What I experience is a challenge, and let me still doubt it sometimes. I accept myself in that because it is so human.

One of my fast learning channels is the visual one, and I start talking to mothers in my field, watching my friends treat their kids, care for animals, or even cook food for the bike messenger couriers in my company.

I am allowing my system to do its thing and trusting my body. I am here to remember. Asking myself what have I received from my parents and what I needed. It requires me to face my family situation, see, acknowledge, and accept the dark parts to resolve and let go.

My last most enormous embodied recognition is to fully accept the dark elements within me and that my power lies in the quality of the darkness. Breaking with the conditioned misbeliefs, I experience tremendous peace and space for something new. I am exploring the qualities of the darkness and their Beauty within. I have chosen the darkness, but out of love and feel so at home. The more I integrated the dark side within me, like the light one, the more I built a container to love someone else unconditionally.

For me, it is that foundation that empowers my physical being—entering a new stage of quality. Because how can I truly unconditionally love someone else if I have not faced and am still doing my inner shadows, demons, and unresolved traumas within me - limiting beliefs, learned conditions, programs, and patterns? I must commit to my inner growth because reparenting works on the part of the psyche that never emotionally grew up.

One way is reparenting my inner child within me and taking full self-responsibility for my being and acting with the outer world.